Mayhem Mindset // Limitless Love

Mayhem Mindset // Limitless Love

Taylor and Brit, I love you both more than anything in my life; it’s crazy, I don’t even have to try; it just pours out of my heart for you. Family is one of my core values, and what it means in my life is always evolving and growing. I know this, no one can make it on their own, and if you are going to become 100% of the women you were designed to BE, you need each other.

Mayhem Mindset // Hunt or be Hunted

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I’m not an expert on PTSD by any means, but I have learned that soldiers who primarily have a job as a hunter, intentionally training for missions that put them on offense, always aggressive, training and attacking are generally less susceptible to the effects of the trauma from PTSD. Conversely, soldiers in more defensive jobs who spent more time waiting or wondering when danger will strike, who feel hunted, are more susceptible to the effects of PTSD, more so than the hunters.  


It’s interesting to recognize that this is how our hearts and minds are wired. We can use this knowledge to help solve some problems and overcome some of our weaknesses physically, mentally, and spiritually. 


PHYSICAL 

It’s always funny to me to see that guy with the giant upper body and chicken legs strutting around the gym. He never trains his weaknesses. Try intentionally attacking and training one of your physical weaknesses first thing after you have warmed up. Since your energy level and mental focus are greater before you tired, use this opportunity to create more intensity and prioritize the skill, technique, or body part that needs the most work. It feels much better to grind at something we are good at. It’s much harder to deal with looking bad and struggling at something we don’t do well. It’s just true if you want to maximize your physical potential, purposefully attack your weaknesses.


Mindset Tool: We are limited by language. Write down in your own words the value of training that weakness, so you get clear about why you're doing it. Write about how overcoming that weakness will positively affect you, and if you don’t address it, how it might eventually hold you back. Next, set a short term goal and a long term goal. Cast a vision for your success. Finally, identify two or three different exercises that address that weakness and put them in your training routine. Success or failure is all about your commitment to consistently training inside a good routine ..... or don’t worry about it and live with those chicken legs ha 


MENTAL

Jordan Peterson said, “Be braver, not less afraid.” That rings true in my heart. It's been my experience that the adversity I have faced either helped refine me and build more character in my life, or it tried to define me, as heartache and disappointment began to overwhelm me. Growing and maturing as a person will require us to understand that we are actually choosing failure when we retreat and hide instead of aggressively attacking the problem. 


Mindset Tool: Strength, not weakness, attack, not retreat. I like to picture adversity as a dragon. If the dragon you are squared off with could analyze and evaluate you, it should see you as dangerous! Don’t avoid the dragon; draw your sword (mindset tools and core values) and attack the dragon! 



SPIRITUAL 

The truth here is hard for me to swallow. To make mistakes and fall short of what we say we believe in has always been part of the human condition. The world isn’t safe. Let me use the spiritual term sin. Sin means to miss the mark, it’s an archery term. Sin is everywhere, and you won’t be able to overcome it with the mindset of trying to avoid it. Instead, we must consciously, daily attack our shortcomings with the intent to destroy them based on a clear plan. It’s just true that if we keep missing the mark because of the same sin day after day, year after year, then we haven’t honestly taken on the responsibility and challenge of destroying that shortcoming. Truthfully, we have chosen to remain in that sin. Either that’s the truth, or that shortcoming will always be more powerful in your life than what you claim to believe in.


Destroying the sin in our lives doesn’t happen by just talking about it, bringing it into the light, confessing it, or simply reciting quotes, mantras or scriptures. Accountability is a cop-out unless you are willing, committed, and prepared to fight. That’s just true because we all know people who have shared all the details of what they say are the shortcomings in their life, asked for support and help, but nothing ever changes for them. In my life, it took losing everything, rock bottom, sink or swim, before it got real for me, and I still have to fight for my truth every day.


Mindset Tool: If you can’t be safe from sin, be dangerous to it! If you have the courage and you know you're prepared and committed, try this exercise. Make a list of your shortcomings. Based on what you believe about it, rank your sin from the worst sin to the white lie. Just the act of honestly writing this down will help reveal how serious about this you are. Next, create a plan. What are you willing to do in order to destroy the sin? 


To be successful, what you decide to do has to be anchored by your personal understanding of what purpose and identity is in your life and grounded by a clear understanding of your strongest beliefs or your core values because that’s how you hold yourself accountable and accurately aim at what you believe is the right thing to do. Next, set your goals and execute your plan inside a consistent routine until you destroy the dragon or get good at driving it away. 


What’s the alternative? Continue to lie to yourself and others. Continue to hide or run from your shortcomings while allowing your emotions and the momentum of life to push you around, all while the shame of never really committing to living out your values keeps you from becoming 100% of the person you were designed to BE.  


Hunt the dragons, or they will hunt you. Define yourself, or somebody will do it for you. 


Here is the Mayhem Mindset Formula to create a vision for your life: Identity + Values + Great Routine = an actionable vision. If you are ready to get prepared and you are looking for a process to develop a vision or a plan for your life, check mayhemmindset.com


Keep Coming Forward!


Jim Hensel

Mayhem Mindset Creator 







Mayhem Mindset // Forgiveness - Vengeance or Justice?

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In my life, forgiveness has become one of the most powerful values I use to take my ego and emotions out of the situation so I can respond from a clear-minded values-based place. When my emotions drive me, I tend to strike back in a vengeful way instead of countering in a just manner. I tend to start playing God, judging someone’s heart instead of their actions.


Physical: Our actions have consequences. Those actions carry varied consequences in our society. Being able to make values-based judgments are foundational to the safety and security required to make our families, community, and society function properly.


Mental: Forgiveness doesn't mean that I’m saying what's been done is o.k., or I’m validating the other person's actions. Forgiveness frees my heart from negative emotions and opens up my ability to respond and act appropriately. Forgiveness also shifts the responsibility to the other person to become accountable for their actions. As a leader, I must have the ability to respond based on my role and my responsibility. What does the other person need from me, grace, truth, or something in between?


Spiritual: Someone once said unforgiveness is like you drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Unforgiveness clouds your ability to hear your heart. We have to be able to forgive, so we respond to adversity appropriately and so that we don’t impede our personal growth. Most importantly, forgiveness creates room for the healing our heart needs to keep coming forward.


The question to answer: Where is unforgiveness causing you to respond in a vengeful way and holding you back from being 100% of who you were created to BE?


Keep Coming Forward! 


Jim Hensel

Mayhem Mindset Creator

MAYHEM MINDSET // READY is not enough, get PREPARED

MAYHEM MINDSET // READY is not enough, get PREPARED

In the Mayhem Mindset Game, being Ready means you have your emotions in the right place at the moment, but you haven’t done the work required to succeed. Being Ready is not enough. Being Prepared means your emotions are under control, and you have done the work to make the most of the opportunity in front of you or to give yourself a fighting chance when you're facing tough times.

Mayhem Mindset // WARNING: DON’T GET USED!

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Avoid the trap of getting stuck emoting and only pointing out problems. Do the work to contribute to solving the problems. In so many cases, the problem is self-evident; it’s obvious to most of us at some level, it’s easy to spend the majority of our time just rehashing the problem.


1. Letting your emotions run wild is easy; expressing your opinion feels good; you might even be justified and have the right, but don’t let that be the extent of it.

2. Being a critical thinker is hard; it requires you to do some research, to get educated, to resist being offended and stop trying to answer complex problems with emotional responses, slogans, or with oversimplified ideology.

3. Having answers to problems, charting a path forward, or creating a vision will mean you can clearly communicate why your beliefs and values can make a difference in solving the problem. You have to do a good job communicating so that others are persuaded by what you think and believe.

4. Solving problems should start with each one of us as individuals, making sure we are living out the answers in our own lives. Next, be a positive influence in your family and grow that outward to your community and society as a whole.


BEWARE! Pointing out the problems is only a part of a leader's responsibility.


BEWARE! When someone says, “let’s just tear it all down and start over” without clearly being able or willing to demonstrate the new way forward. Obviously, we want to replace what’s broke with something that’s works better.


BEWARE! Getting caught in the momentum of emotion can leave you susceptible to being used, and manipupated.


Capture your emotion and develop your answer to the problem.

Define Yourself ... DON’T GET USED!



Keep Coming Forward!


Jim Hensel

Mayhem Mindset Creator

Mayhem Mindset // Eliminate Chaos In Your Life

Mayhem Mindset // Eliminate Chaos In Your Life

If your feeling chaotic, it might be time for you to think past what you have accepted about your life and cast a new vision for who you might become. It’s just true, if your life isn’t going the way you want it to or your not sure what to do next, it’s time to stop and re-examine your core values.

Mayhem Mindset // Fatherhood & Freedom

Mayhem Mindset // Fatherhood & Freedom

I have been thinking a lot about a father's role and the value of Freedom in this grand experiment that is the United States of America. The value of Freedom that we all aspire to is still honorable even though, as fathers, we have failed in some ways to make sure everyone has the opportunity Freedom should provide. We have a system and a culture where we have seen even the most common and humble people create and ultimately realize the life they dreamed. Today as a father, I am asking myself, am I doing a good job of first demonstrating the value of Freedom to my children and then doing the work necessary to help create a path forward for them. Next, how can I be a part of helping others in my community, and then society have more opportunity to be free to work hard for the life they want.

Mayhem Mindset // Justice And Revenge Are Not The Same

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As we have developed as a nation, monstrous mistakes politically, and ideologically have been made, racism is one of those high crimes, and it must be eliminated. I believe we must continue to fight for equality, freedom, and the rights of every individual period. I also think we must be careful not to destroy the good foundational qualities that brought us to this place in human history, where we have the right and the ability to make the changes we are protesting and fighting for. If we burn it all down now, the sacrifices and the high price that the oppressed before us have already paid will have been in vain.

The ultimate purpose of protest is to separate what’s right from what’s wrong; it’s not meant to destroy everything indiscriminately. It’s only common sense that we must retain what is good and grow it, build it, improve it, and get rid of what is bad, we should always be moving toward the good. It’s critical to see this, If we destroy the foundation that has made us the freest people in the history of humankind, what will we have? This is important, don’t just skip past this fact because there is still work to do and because the system isn’t perfect and people get it wrong every day. A protest has been fundamental to our growth as a society; it’s necessary. However, protest is just the starting point. Protest needs to be balanced with the understanding that anybody who lives in Western culture now has more opportunities than any other point in human history. More importantly, we have the tools and freedom to affect the change we are protesting for, and we have the responsibility to do the work required to make that change come to pass.

We must not allow the freedom we have to become a weakness. Freedom can’t exist without self-disciple; each of us must take responsibility for our response as individuals, as families, and as a community. We cannot allow our emotions and momentum to cause us to act in a way that destroys the progress that has been made.  We must not let those with anti-freedom values, ideology, and political aims to use us unwittingly. 

There is a very clear difference between justice and revenge. 

Keep Coming Forward!


Jimmy H

Mayhem Mindset Coach

Mayhem Mindset Monday // Don’t Be Defined By Your Appearance.

Mayhem Mindset Monday // Don’t Be Defined By Your Appearance.

We are ALL working on our body image. We ALL battle the fear of looking bad in one way or the other. It will be a challenge to transform your perspective even when you realize you have the power to choose our truth. To begin to develop the proper mindset, stop, and recalibrate. Your value as a person is undoubtedly more than skin deep, I don’t know anyone trustworthy who would disagree with that.